When I know someone’s story, I have compassion. I vow to always have compassion knowing that there is always a story.
One evening, I attended the play, The Miracle Worker. It’s the true story of Helen Keller and her teacher, Annie Sullivan. Helen was blind and deaf since infancy and consequently mute, and Annie taught her how to communicate. It’s a very powerful story.
Anyhoo, I’m watching the play and the woman next to me is talking to the person next to her. I tried to ignore her but it’s like she wasn’t even trying to be quiet. She spoke throughout the entire first act, just commenting on every single thing that was happening! I can’t tell you how many times I almost said, “Excuse me, but could you skip the play-by-play?! I’m trying to enjoy the show here!”
Well, luckily I didn’t because, at intermission, she turned to me and said, “I hope my talking during the play didn’t disturb you. You see, my friend here is blind and I was trying to describe what was happening to her.” Ugh! I felt like such an ass!
If someone is getting on your last nerve (or maybe it’s all of humanity today), why not just assume that they have some shit going on or some other reason that’s making them annoying (because that’s always the case). To release whatever angst you’re feeling, say the Metta (Loving Kindness) Prayer. There are many variations, but this one is simple to remember:
May I be happy. May I be well. May I be peaceful. May I be free.
Always say it for yourself first, then say it for the other person … and then you can say it for others … you can even say it for all beings in the world, if you want. Spread that loving around, baby!
Spiral level: Meh, Pretty Darn Good, Great
Use when feeling: people, ugh!, mad at people, frustrated, pissed