My Superpower Is Persistence.
Sometimes I get overwhelmed with the sheer amount of things on my to-do list! And when it gets really bad, I vacillate between being paralyzed (“I’ll never get this done! Why should I even try?”) and belligerent (“Leave me the fuck alone; I have to finish everything on my list!”). I know what you’re thinking … I’m the picture of mental health, aren’t I?
I often need reminders that the “middle ground,” which is much easier on me (and everyone around me), is the more sane approach. So, when I’m in this space where I’m about to become a lunatic about something, I say these words to myself, “bird by bird, darlin’!” I culled them from a book called, coincidentally enough, Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott. Here’s the relevant excerpt from the book:
"Thirty years ago my older brother, who was ten years old at the time, was trying to get a report on birds written that he'd had three months to write. [It] was due the next day … he was at the kitchen table close to tears, surrounded by binder paper and pencils and unopened books on birds, immobilized by the hugeness of the task ahead. Then my father sat down beside him, put his arm around my brother's shoulder, and said. 'Bird by bird, buddy. Just take it bird by bird.'"
If you’re feeling this way today, let this be your mantra. Just say this to yourself each time you start to enter panic mode. Prioritize your list, start from the top and work down … bird by bird…
And, hey, you may not get to every bird, and that’s ok. Just do what you can because, guess what? That’s all you can do.
And BTW, a little birdie told me that you’re already doing more than the average person would do, so you’re already ahead of the game!
Spiral level: ALL
Use when feeling: frustrated, overwhelmed