Updated: Apr 1, 2021
I need to remember that we are all humans just doing the very best we can. I promise to look for the humanity in other people today … I may not always find it, but I PROMISE I will look.
We humans are so complex … so freaking imperfect … so fragile. Our experiences can affect the way we see absolutely everything and subsequently, how we behave.
If you’re having an issue with someone today (even if it’s you), try to look for their human-ness; that thing that makes them imperfect … and forgivable. If you don’t know them well or can’t see it easily, make up a story about why they would act the way they do that just gets on your last nerve. Make up a story that sparks compassion in you. Here’s a real example from my life:
A friend of mine worked as a waitress and hated her boss. Another mutual friend and I had lunch in her section one day, and she pointed him out to us. We could immediately see how much of a jerk he was … he was rude to the staff and condescending to the customers. We bitched about him during most of that lunch and all agreed he was an ass. Then HIS boss showed up. Suddenly he grew nervous and clumsy. He kept dropping things and apologizing. In that moment, I could see his human-ness. I could see that he was just an awkward and scared little boy who just didn’t know how interact with people in a way that was healthy.
It’s my belief that, the more we are conscious and forgiving of other’s motives and actions, the more we can forgive ourselves. Because, I don’t know about you, but I have definitely been an ass one or two times myself.
P.S. This does not mean you should let someone treat you like shit. It just means that you can let go of harboring any animosity toward them. And I will also not tolerate you treating yourself like shit either. Just sayin’…
Spiral level: ALL
Use when feeling: frustrated, people, ugh!, family shit, reminder