Updated: May 29
I may not be able to calm a storm, but I CAN calm myself.
Unfortunately, we don’t have any control over the world around us. The only thing we have control over is ourselves. Now, I know the bitch in your head right now is telling you that you don’t have control over yourself either, but here’s a newsflash – SHE’S LYING!! Bitch comment aside, don’t be too hard on her – she’s just scared.
If you’re overwhelmed right now, take 5 minutes and flood your senses with something calming. Hit them all and all at once if you can. If not all at once, then bounce back and forth between them to keep her on her toes, so that she will shut the hell up. Here’s an example:
Touch: Pet your dog
Sight: Look deeply into your dog’s eyes
Hearing: Listen to him breathe in softly as you snuggle
Smell: Smell that special doggie smell, even if he needs a bath
Taste: Give each of you your favorite Tasty treat (even if it’s not the healthiest thing – I give you permission)
And, for God’s sake, set a timer! I don’t want you rushing this. And, when she chimes in during this time, take a deep breath and gently tell her to sit in the corner for 5 minutes … you may have to tell her several times, and that’s ok. If you want more and have more time, do it again … and again…. Be sure to really let it fill you up each time before you move on.
If you experienced ANY calm at all during this (even the tiniest flash) – concentrate on that! I mean really relish it like it’s your favorite dessert. And remember that you have this power … always!
Spiral level: Really Low or Pretty Shitty
Use when feeling: scared, overwhelmed, powerless, worried