Updated: Apr 1, 2021


I’m so good at saying I’m sorry when I need to.

Action Plan:

Is there something that’s been weighing on you? Something that wakes you up in the middle of the night with you saying, “Why did I do that?” Sometimes we worry over the tiniest things that may not have even upset someone. And sometimes we’ve done some shit that we know harmed someone.

Well, it’s time to get one of them out of your head and heart right now. Say you’re sorry to someone you might have hurt. Send them a text, email, handwritten letter, or give them a call; whatever is easier for you. Only do this if you can be open-hearted about it and genuinely sorry. Don’t do it with any kind of agenda or with the expectation for any outcome (the person may not accept your apology, and that’s ok). And, I can’t stress this enough, ONLY do it if you think it’s safe. Don’t contact someone directly, unless they are a safe person to have in your life.

If you need to apologize to someone who is gone from this world or who you shouldn’t contact directly, then do it energetically. Try this Buddhist meditation on forgiveness. Heck, this is healing to do occasionally even if you don’t have a specific issue. Spend just a few minutes in quiet, eyes closed and repeat to yourself:

"If I have hurt or harmed anyone, knowingly or unknowingly, I ask forgiveness. If anyone has hurt or harmed me, knowingly or unknowingly, I forgive them. For the ways I have hurt myself, knowingly or unknowingly, I offer forgiveness."

And, remember that we are all innately loving beings who deserve to be accepted and loved despite our flaws or mistakes, so, after you say you’re sorry, it’s ok to let that shit go….

Spiral level: All

Use when feeling: down on self, regret