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I give myself permission to be happy, no matter what is happening in the world around me.

Action Plan:

This may sound strange to some, but if you’re a particularly empathetic person, you might struggle with feeling happy when those around you are suffering. It can feel like a betrayal.

I have struggled with this myself. What has helped me is the realization that being unhappy is not helping anyone – least of all the people around me who are hurting. Looking and striving for my own happiness is the absolute best thing I can do, especially if my aim is to help others. I’m here to tell you right now that your brain is lying to you if it says you need to be enmeshed in your loved one’s or the world’s woes.

So, today, go ahead and own your happiness. If you feel the happiness sneaking in after a period of eluding you, fling open the door, welcome it, and pull up a chair so it can settle in. It’s good for you – it’s good for those you love – it’s good for the world. Write down what you’re grateful for – enjoy it – relish it … you deserve it!

And listen, if you can help a friend who is struggling, go ahead! Even if all you can do is send a text to say you love them. But let me just say this … I know you’re all empathetic and shit, but you are NOT in charge of making sure anyone else is happy. All you can do is work on your own happiness and maybe invite others to join you – it’s up to them if they accept. I mean right now, you can tell me to fuck off and decide you want to agonize over the state of the world, and there’s not a damn thing I can do about it. And that’s ok. Well, it’s a little annoying, if I’m being honest … but it’s ok…

Spiral level: ALL

Use when feeling: sad (for people/world), scared

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