I am exactly where I need to be.
Sometimes I can be impatient. Like, when in the hell am I going to (insert whatever I currently feel is missing in my life here)?! At times, getting “there” seems unimaginable … Then I saw this quote:
“I am learning every day to allow the space between where I am and where I want to be to inspire me and not terrify me.” -Tracee Ellis Ross
This made me realize that I need to reframe my thinking from (whatever I’m thinking) to inspired. And that excited me because I have actually done this before and it really works. As Inigo Montoya from The Princess Bride said, “Lemme 'splain. No, there is too much. Lemme sum up.”
I had always wanted to be an actor. The only thing that kept me from doing it was gut-wrenching, debilitating stage fright that made me feel like I was going to die! So, it only took me until I was in my 40’s to act on it (pun intended). The fear persisted even after I had some success at it (and by success, I mean that I didn’t actually die). Then I read somewhere that anxiety and excitement feel the same in our bodies – we simply decide what we want to call it based on the circumstances. So, instead of deciding, “I’m feeling anxious … I need to run away from here!” I decided to feel, “This is so exciting! My body can barely contain how exhilarated it is to be here doing this thing that I have always wanted to do – I am so grateful!!”
So, if you’re feeling like you’re not where you think you “should” be (whether physically, mentally or emotionally), is there some thinking you can reframe? Can you find a way to become excited about where you are? Start with how you’re feeling right now and see if you can reframe it to something that uplifts you. I’m not gonna lie – this is some advanced shit and it’s not always easy! And it’s a practice … but it can be fun … and inspiring…
Spiral level: Meh, Pretty Darn Good
Use when feeling: frustrated, sad, inspired